This design was born from a conversation with a friend of mine. We were talking about how we had sought safety in rules as children—when the world felt unpredictable, following the rules gave us something we could control, a way to feel secure. But now? My friend said she is "retiring from rule following," and it hit me: that's not rebellion, that's growth.
Retiring from rule following doesn't mean you're reckless or irresponsible. It means you've done the work of figuring out which rules serve you and which ones you were just following out of habit or fear. It means you're ready to make your own decisions, trust your own judgment, and give yourself permission to color outside the lines you drew for yourself a long time ago.
This one's for the recovering perfectionists, the people-pleasers in recovery, the "good kids" who are finally asking "good for whom?" It's for anyone who's realizing that the rulebook they've been following was written for someone else's life, not theirs.
If you spent your childhood being praised for compliance and you're now learning what it feels like to trust yourself—welcome to retirement. It looks good on you.
Perfect for: Recovering perfectionists, former "good kids," people-pleasers in recovery, anyone learning to trust their own judgment, and anyone who's ever felt safer following the rules than making their own.
Product features
- Vegan, non-toxic soy wax blend with no parabens, plastics, or phthalates
- 100% cotton wick and reusable amber glass jar
- Six scent options including Christmas Warmth, Cinnamon Vanilla, and White Sage + Lavender
- Assembled in the USA; meets ASTM safety standards
- Clean-burning formulation — same wax color across all scents
Care instructions
- Burn within sight. Keep away from flammables. Keep away from children and pets.
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